Nashville Update #2

Greetings from the Glazer Kennedy Marketing Super Conference!  Wow…what a day!

Today’s keynote speaker was none other than Gene Simmons – This man is brilliant.  I can honestly say that I was quite literally in AWE of what he’s accomplished and how much of a REAL, REGULAR GUY he really is.  I wish you could have been here.  It was like getting an MBA in 90 minutes.

Also, as promised, here’s a great opportunity for a few of our fast acting clients – I enjoyed some time with Dean Killingbeck from New Customers Now.  He runs some really cool promotions to help small businesses (like yours) to increase their lead flow and step up your enrollments.

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This is Dean Killingbeck and I first thing this morning!
Dean told me he’s taking on a few more clients right now and I thought this would be a no-brainer for many of you…so…if you’d like to speak with him personally, please drop me an e-mail or comment on this post and I’ll forward your information to Dean and he can give you all the details.  You’ve gotta see some of the promotions he does…they’re AWESOME…and actually quite inexpensive!
Alright – it’s time for me to go to bed…we’ve got a LONG DAY tomorrow – lotsa learning!
And don’t forget, if you’re in New England, Dr. Robyn will be appearing once again as Rosie Alvarez in Bye, Bye Birdie in Randolph, MA
Have a Powerful day!
Jason M. Silverman

Randy Pausch: On Not Giving Up on Your Students

**This article is posted in an altered form on Dr. Robyn’s Powerful Parenting Blog as a service to all of our fabulous Powerful Words family schools throughout the world. —————————————————————————————

“Experience is what you get is when you didn’t get what you want…We send our kids out to play football or soccer or swimming or whatever it is… for indirect learning..we don’t actually want them to learn football… We send our kids out to learn much more important things; teamwork, sportsmanship, perseverance, etc. etc.” –Randy Pausch

The article below was in the March Powerful Words Newsletter– since Perry Bateson in Canada just reminded me about the Randy Pausch video (thank-you!), I figured I’d post it here for all of you. (The full YouTube version is over an hour– well worth it, so pull up a chair– but there is a shortened version (10 minutes) that played on Oprah for your convenience).

Aren’t you ruining my child’s self esteem?

Mrs. Phillips came to talk to me while her son, Patrick, age 8, was in class. “Patrick was upset the other day because Guro Jason corrected three times on one of his skills. When you tell him he’s doing something wrong, aren’t you ruining his self esteem?”

This story came to mind today when I was watching a video of the inspirational “last lecture” of Randy Pausch, who’ll likely die of liver cancer within the next few months. I love watching videos like these because they shine such a bright light on learning and put a fire in my belly. In fact, they make me feel like running to the helm of a ship and yelling “I’m the king of the world!”

Anyway, Professor Pausch said; “when you’re screwing up and nobody’s saying anything to you anymore, that means they’ve given up…your critics are the ones who still love you and know you can.” Boy, do I agree with that–although, it’s not always easy to experience criticism and it can be excruciating to watch someone we love being critiqued.

I wrote an article on my own experience with this phenomenon. At Tufts, my advisor was known to be the toughest in my department. My dissertation was often filled with red marks and comments like “no!” “wrong!” and “don’t say this” throughout it’s 150 pages. I’m not condoning my advisor’s unforgiving approach—but rather, his practice. Would he be helping me by giving me a disingenuous pat on the back? Certainly not.

Interestingly, after I was awarded my doctorate, he did say something to me that I’ll never forget; “I was hard on you because I always knew you could do better. And you did. In fact you did so well that you became one of the very best.” I felt as though I had destroyed every brick wall placed in front of me and I was ready to take on the world.

So, what about the claim Mrs. Phillips made about her child’s self esteem? While too much criticism in the absence of praise can be detrimental, too much praise in the absence of critique is just as damaging.

Feelings of self worth, esteem, and gratification come from overcoming challenges. They derive from hard work, perseverance, self discipline, and self reliance. They don’t come from simply being the best but rather, doing one’s personal best and raising the bar higher every time we approach a skill. These feelings don’t come from our teachers and parents telling us we’re doing well when we aren’t or telling us we’re doing “the best” when we’re not putting in “our best.” They come from when others, whose opinions we value, tell us that they know we can do better and then notice it when we do.

In the end, we gain self esteem when we break through brick walls when even we wondered if we could.

As educators, coaches, teachers, and instructors, it’s our duty to inspire students to rise to their potential—not so that they necessarily become better martial artists, gymnasts, swimmers, dancers, or cheerleaders, but so they strive towards their personal best in everything they do.

Nobody ever feels satisfied while leaning against a brick wall that blocks their dream as their superheroes yell “at-a-boy!” But I’ve certainly felt the rush of achievement when I’ve barreled through brick walls, bruises and all, with my mentors and loved ones nodding their heads saying, “we knew you could do better. And you did.”

Here’s to you– for not letting our students give up on their dreams,

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Checking in from Nashville, TN

Greetings All~

I’m here at the Gaylord Opryland Hotel in Nashville, TN for the Dan Kennedy Marketing SuperConference!  This place is amazing – it’s HUGE…I have to say that it makes the MGM Grand in Las Vegas feel small 🙂

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 This picture was taken INSIDE!  It’s like a mini-city here!

I thought I’d check in and say hello and let you know that I’ll be coming back with some amazing new information for all of our Powerful Words Clients…case in point, I met some people on the plane down here that I believe could help you to continue to grow your schools…more info about that in my next post.  Gotta go to bed – we have an early start tomorrow!

Have a Powerful Day!

Jason M. Silverman

Powerful Words Character Development